How Goals Can Reduce Your Effectiveness

Many people feel nowadays that they work hard however they cannot achieve what they want. Either there is a problem that they do not have any goals or they have. Setting up goals is important activity which help you pick direction you want to go and for motivating yourself to turn your vision of future into reality.

I agree with that it is important to set up goals and work toward them, because you need clear vision why you want to achieve your goal.

However there is one downsize. Once you stay focused only on your goal, you spoil your experience of activity you will need to pursue. It makes you more to drop out earlier because most likely you will not hit your expectations so soon and you will feel like goal you were set up is beyond your limits.

My experience is same. When I started my internship experience, I was acquainted with concept of goals and so. However I made big mistake right from beginning. I set up goals and I was putting all my effort only toward to goal. I was taking all that too serious. And every day with unmet expectation I created within myself more pressure and discomfort. Harder I have worked and focused on goal, it was becoming more difficult for me. And of course I have lost pleasure from what I have been doing. And believe me once you lose pleasure from what you do, it is time for change. Never let any negative experience drag you down. You have to feel satisfaction in what you do and after that goals and success become your reality.

There is only one way how to overcome. You have to lose concern about goals and go out just with clear mind, reminding that you will enjoy day, it means focus more on experience of activity without any doubts for quotas, goals and your results get better. I realized what I needed to do and when you become more free minded, you become enjoying more what you do, goals you were set up initially will be achievable.

What I have discovered is that, staying focused on goals detracts from inherent pleasure of the activities you need to pursue to achieve your goals. There is a lot of information between intrinsic and extrinsic motivation. It means that external rewards can backfire. (E.g. Offer a child candy for making pretty drawings and whereas they used to draw nice for joy, now they will put pen down only because of reward). However intrinsic motivation can be imperiled even without offer reward. By focusing on ultimate goals of an activity we risk destroying our intrinsic motivation.

So, whether you are about start a diet, working out program or new course...at first of course visualize your goals to help get yourself started in the first place, but once you have begun, try to your goal fade a little into backgrounds. Revel in the process and you are more likely to make it to finishing lane. That way you are more likely master your course, lose weight, and get in shape. Make it happen.

What Is Your Take?
Have you found that focusing on your end goal help you or reduce your pleasure from what you do?

Who Is Our Competition?

Everything what we do in our lives we try to look at others and compare  and compete to them in way to improve. However it usually leads to disappointment, jealousy and it might end in anger.

Recently I was reading a story about one guy and how he was competing at his race. I found resemblance between him and myself. Why? Let me explain. A guy was suffering with some physical illness which was a barrier when he runs. Nobody understood why he was doing it, why he was racing when you cannot win. People could not understand his reason of doing it and suffering every time. You can imagine that it hurts every time when he stood up at starting line and tried to run. But there was one huge difference between him and others...

When everybody else is done with race, everyone comes back to with him. He is the only runner when he falls down; someone else will help pick him up. He is the only when he finishes, has hundreds of people running behind him. And this support gives him additional positive emotions which empower him to beat himself again and again and finally win race as well.

I felt in same way. Every time there were people in our team that were standing behind me, who were supporting to me and were trying to help me as much they could. They were great to me and appreciate what I was doing even my results were not the best. I am sure that you would like to know why they behaved in such a way.

And this is what I have realized. When you compete against everybody else, no one wants to help you. But when you compete against yourself, everyone wants to help you. People do not perceive you like a competitor, but more like a person who wants to overcome yourself which is usually more important reason than just race. And eventually if you are able beat yourself you can win race as well. There is always only one barrier, YOU. Overcome yourself and you will win I know that.

Now I know why I succeeded because I was competing against myself, every day. I was reminding during my day purpose why I came there to do it. I was not there to beat anyone but myself just like the guy who was running his race. And that is why I was always feeling full support of everybody  and never lost sight of that. We often lose sight why we do certain things just because we focus more on others (competition) than to ourself. 

Have always your own purpose (something meaningful) and people will help you get what you want. 

Failure Is Inevitable Part Of Thinking Big

It has been almost 11 months of trainings, work experiences and self studying. My Internship program is almost done. And I can look back and honestly say…

I have learned a lot of about sales techniques, presentations models, emotional and social intelligence, consumer behavior which is inevitable part of every business. But what is the most important lesson I have learned? 

Failure is inevitable part of thinking big and going after what are you really passionate about.

I have embraced failure like experience which is necessary part of my path to become who I want to be. I have started really low at beginning with no results. The toughest task was overcome yourself. I did it.

What did help me?

• Strong defined purpose of life
• Firm belief that there is no outer limits, only you can limit yourself
•  Desire to succeed in life and don’t let negative outcome take your dreams
• Abiltity to take action in crisis

We  ”people” are tool which help to us but on other hand as well weight which drag us down. You are in control of your life. You decide where you want to go, what you want to do. Start using more your gut, heart even though it will be irrational. 

  

”The life is not about finding yourself; it is more about creating yourself”. This experience helped me create tool which will help pursue next challenge of life. 

So do not look for the right time anymore, it is NOW...